Thought 1

Sometimes a person really needs to tell someone something. For me, right now, I just want to talk. Not to hear myself speak but to just put my thoughts out there and get it out of my head and into reality.

My topic today is love.
Yeah whatever. Love is interesting. For me, a high school student, no one around me knows what the heck love is. They think they are in love when really it's probably just their hormones acting up because they are with a person of the opposite sex. So put that in your pipe and smoke it. Anyway my thoughts are focused more on the aspect of dating and the real purpose. At my youth group we just approached the topic of love and dating so this is a little bit about that and what I (and most other respectable young ladies) expect out of dating.
1) Dating is the process of searching and selecting the man(or woman) that you want to spend the rest of your life with.-- Let me elaborate. Dating is not just hanging out with that guy that you have a huge crush on as of the moment and then two weeks later it's someone else. Dating is not flirting with that girl to get her number just so you can satisfy yourself and then leave her. Dating in my opinion is expressing yourself to someone you would consider living with for forever. When one goes on a date they should not just think of it as a 'one night stand' or whatever, we should always consider the fact that we could get stuck with this person for the rest of our life.
2) Date at a respectable age.-- Uh hello! Why are there 5th graders in relationships?? I mean come on it's cute when kids are in kindergarten and they don't know what they are doing but really...You're 11. "Dating" someone at that age is just ruining a possible good friendship with that guy or gal. I would rather  get over that 'crush' and then when you are in high school the two of you confide in each other like brother and sister. Plus I'm not even sure that's considered dating at that age...
3) Enjoy being single! (Thanks to a certain someone for sharing this point of view) You can only do certain things when you are single. Why would you want to go on a date with your person of interest when you could go somewhere with a whole bunch of people? Again there are only certain things you can do as a single person. Even the things you can do single or dating those things would probably be much more enjoyable as a single person. For example: If I go on a outing with my youth group I would much rather be able to go off with my girl friends and spend time with them than be stuck next to this guy who doesn't know anyone at my youth group and I will probably dump in the next three weeks anyway. Who wants that???????? Hey, spend time with your friends NOW and if that guy or girl is really worth it they can wait. God's timing is best so might as well wait until He wants you in a relationship.

Sorry for the completely unorganized train of thought but here it is.

I know that before I even go on a date my dad will have to approve of the guy first. And I'm sure my brothers would put in their word too. So before I even consider to go on this date I would think, What will my dad say? Will my brothers like him? because again dating is looking for the person you want to live with forever so that means your family is stuck with him too. Also I would most definitely have to know this person for awhile before I just pledge myself as their girlfriend. I'm not going to go into my personal views and opinions on what I want my future husband to be like but I will share some of his competition.


*Daddy. My person of interest must be somewhat like my dad. He must be a Godly man and be very wise, because that's what Daddy is like and that is someone I could spend the rest of my life with.
*Brothers. They get on my nerves a lot but hey I could stand them all this time so future boyfriend you're going to have be somewhat like them or at least like one of their friends.
*Pastor. The pastor at my church was my first youth pastor for about two years before he moved up in the world. When I look at a guy I compare him first to my dad and brothers but next would be my pastor. If my pastor doesn't like him, well he wouldn't last very long.
*Youth Pastor. Obviously I'm going to compare this boy with my awesome youth pastor. If there is a person in this world that can't get along with my youth pastor...well it's probably impossible. And that is something to look for in a guy.

These guys I spend lots of time around and so that contributes to the reasons why I would want my future husband to be like them. But the main reason is because I look up to these men. They all have a sense of humor but know when they need to be gentlemen.

I'm not quite sure what I am trying to express. Maybe that women should expect something out of a boyfriend. Maybe it's that our society needs to take a deep look at why we even date at such an odd(odd as in way too young) age.

Thanks for reading and I hope that you would ponder these things when you think about dating. And sorry for this completely unorganized post but sometimes we just need to talk to ourselves.
--sea'sthoughts--